Of course you are, and 'tis better that you let yourself feel them than hide from them. My intent was only to make sure you are not hurt by thinking his hostility is directed at you, or caused by aught you've done.
Few things these days are easy, and they will likely get more frustrating before improving. Not borrowing trouble where none is, that is all I can hope to help with, for now. And hopefully providing a little bit of understanding, here and there.
That still doesn’t remove the bite from the insult, of course. All of the understanding and patience that the star could contain won’t soothe the sting.
For as okd as he is, one would have thought that he would have some control over his tongue and gestures if the are not meant to be directed at someone.
[ On his side, Hythlodaeus sighs to himself. It could be seen as an insult. It could be taken to mean that Theo's soul, the soul of their beloved friend, is priceless.
But as he does lack the context of the action, he can't speak for it with certainty. Nor will his words make a difference - it is Hades - or, perhaps, Emet-Selch - who should give context when he finds his own stance on things.
But the last part makes him smile, if only a little, and sadly. ]
I'm afraid that without people to give him cause to exercise such control, it is rather that he got into some horrible habits on that account. His peers cared little for offense, in their state, I would imagine.
[ There's no real way of Theo knowing either, really. How could he? That man plays everything so close to the chest sometimes.... ]
I believe you would be correct on that account. Something tells me the others would not care overmuch about the words that he would speak or the bite that they have.
[ The would have, once. Elidibus, precious and full of hope. Lahabrea, full of fire and argument but still so, so aware of all around him.
A soft breath out. He is not grieving the past, not in the way those who want to bring it back do. But he is grieving the pain the changes in it brought to his dearest friend over all this time-- ah well. Not something that can be helped with, now. ]
See? Bad habits. It is in both your and his best interest if you point out to him, calmly, what you don't appreciate. The way that you would wish your own mistakes be pointed out to you, rather than the way that would make you dig in your heels and remain contrary, of course.
[ Oh, Hythlodaeus is pointing it out to Hades, when he gets to witness or has been told about it. And he can point out that from most people, that is exactly how Emet-Selch would take it, or as a cause to be even more aggravating.
But Theo isn't most people, not for either of them. ]
With him, it is slightly more complicated, and it is a little harder to break habits built over millennia, especially ones built as defensive mechanisms. But when aware that he is causing hurt on those who are important to him, he will at least make an attempt to monitor himself.
This would be what blocks understanding. There are certainly more fears, of course.
None of them that I can discern so far can be called lacking justification. *Especially* the fear of emotions, including but far from only because of the recent - somewhat - for us revelations about Dynamis.
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[ So young, and yet so wise in his way. ]
Of course you are, and 'tis better that you let yourself feel them than hide from them. My intent was only to make sure you are not hurt by thinking his hostility is directed at you, or caused by aught you've done.
Few things these days are easy, and they will likely get more frustrating before improving. Not borrowing trouble where none is, that is all I can hope to help with, for now. And hopefully providing a little bit of understanding, here and there.
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That still doesn’t remove the bite from the insult, of course. All of the understanding and patience that the star could contain won’t soothe the sting.
For as okd as he is, one would have thought that he would have some control over his tongue and gestures if the are not meant to be directed at someone.
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But as he does lack the context of the action, he can't speak for it with certainty. Nor will his words make a difference - it is Hades - or, perhaps, Emet-Selch - who should give context when he finds his own stance on things.
But the last part makes him smile, if only a little, and sadly. ]
I'm afraid that without people to give him cause to exercise such control, it is rather that he got into some horrible habits on that account. His peers cared little for offense, in their state, I would imagine.
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I believe you would be correct on that account. Something tells me the others would not care overmuch about the words that he would speak or the bite that they have.
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A soft breath out. He is not grieving the past, not in the way those who want to bring it back do. But he is grieving the pain the changes in it brought to his dearest friend over all this time-- ah well. Not something that can be helped with, now. ]
See? Bad habits. It is in both your and his best interest if you point out to him, calmly, what you don't appreciate. The way that you would wish your own mistakes be pointed out to you, rather than the way that would make you dig in your heels and remain contrary, of course.
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[ Oh, Hythlodaeus is pointing it out to Hades, when he gets to witness or has been told about it. And he can point out that from most people, that is exactly how Emet-Selch would take it, or as a cause to be even more aggravating.
But Theo isn't most people, not for either of them. ]
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With him, it is slightly more complicated, and it is a little harder to break habits built over millennia, especially ones built as defensive mechanisms. But when aware that he is causing hurt on those who are important to him, he will at least make an attempt to monitor himself.
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None of them that I can discern so far can be called lacking justification. *Especially* the fear of emotions, including but far from only because of the recent - somewhat - for us revelations about Dynamis.
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